Transforming Connection:
Emotionally Focused and Dynamic Couples Therapy

Partnership has its challenges.

In couples therapy, I take an emotionally focused and dynamic approach, helping partners tune into the deeper emotions that often lie beneath the surface of conflict. So often, arguments aren’t really about the dishes or the text that didn’t get answered—they’re about feeling unheard, unsafe, or disconnected. Together, we explore the emotional triggers that set off those cycles, and the communication patterns that keep you stuck. Rather than just managing symptoms, we work to understand the underlying needs and fears driving each partner’s responses.

This process can involve looking at each person’s family of origin — where we learned, often unconsciously, how to relate, express needs, or protect ourselves. By bringing awareness to those early experiences, we can start to untangle old patterns and build something new. The goal isn’t perfection — it’s connection. It’s about breaking the cycle and creating a more secure, compassionate way of relating that feels safe, honest, and alive.